How many times it occurs that you are bored to death and desperately waiting for the person to stop the talking. When he calls the next time, you ignore pressing the talk button because the agony of tolerating his blabber is worse than a trip to hell. Why do you do avoid him? Do you want to be one like him? Definitely not! So, what can you do for people to look forward to see you? Which action of yours will make you indispensable in their life? Let’s explore.
One of the basic human needs is to be listen to and acknowledged. In a social conversation, everyone is catering to this need of his own, resulting in talking and talking. Therefore, most conversations are inconclusive and misunderstood. If you master these ideas, you will be loved and revered by all:
1. Take Interest in Their Life: Find out how their life is, what are their desires and aspirations, what are the struggles they are going through. As they notice you are taking genuine interest, they will open up more.
2. Don’t Judge: Your belief system will interfere with your listening, contain it. Listen without judgement. Try to understand their world the way they do.
3. Contain your Urge to Interrupt: Listen completely even if you tend to disagree. If you have an alternate viewpoint, you can politely express disagreement later.
4. Don’t Interrogate, Ask Relevant Questions: Restrain from Sounding Like a police officer. As you notice the problems pouring in, you will tend to think yourself superior. Maintain humility and ask the questions that help you understand them better.
5. Show that You are Listening: Avoid distractions, acknowledge using verbal nods and maintain eye contact regularly.
6. Support
7. Maintain Confidentiality: Maintain highest level of integrity regarding the sensitive information you are trusted with. Don’t use that for personal gain. Never share it anybody even your spouse.
Apply these ideas in your conversations and just wait for your trust-value to multiply. Consequently, you will have raving fans everywhere.